Hollywood Ruined Your Love Life: Seeking Your Soulmate
By Bennie Lloyd
You are in your early 40s. You are in shape and well-educated. You have a good job and a nice house. You shower on a regular basis and even have a dog. You have been using dating sites, going to bars, hitting on co-workers and nothing You are still single!
Life can easily get in the way of our happiness.
Fears and career ambitions can quickly displace the quest to find love. However, men usually get to a point in their lives where they want someone to grow old with and question how they go to be 40 and are still dating.
Don’t drive yourself nuts with probing self-analysis. The truth is that part of the reason why this happens is because many men have unrealistic expectations and are holding out for their soulmate.
Destiny and serendipity aside, finding your soulmate is easier than you may think. Hollywood movies have created an impossible expectation that the only love worth having is the “cosmic soulmate” kind. For men in their prime, who have spent decades looking, this can cause lots of stress and anxiety. I am here to tell you to relax. All it takes is a bit of luck and a lot of communication to find the one.
The criteria for a soulmate are simple.
Find someone who
- has the same views on life, love and the pursuit of happiness and
- puts your welfare and success almost above their own without reward.
A relationship can’t survive on superficial attraction or “love”.
You need to agree to disagree on all the everyday things like finances, sex, food, parenting, spirituality and even politics. You can’t expect a beautiful woman to be your soulmate based on looks. You have to talk it out.
When talking to a lady you are interested in, ask her probing questions about her personal attitude towards the important things in your life, but also be ready to partake in things that are important to her. Relationships need both people in them to be involved and happy; otherwise, you’ll be back at square one, wondering what went wrong.
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